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If even after three seconds of reading the title, you are still wondering of what I might be talking of; thinking that you are in love with X or Y and not in love with love and so this is not meant for you; HANG ON! The following few lines may prove to be self- revelatory for you!
You've just celebrated six months of your "perfect relationship" and think that your partner is just your dream personified; he sends you the most beautiful flowers for the most unexpected reasons and she surprises you with all your assignments completed by the deadline, you have identical lists of favorites and you practically cry at the same movies. She goes shopping for your sister's birthday and he justifies your dad every time you think he is behaving like a representative of prehistoric times. You have never even fought with each other, except those couple of times when you banged the phone on each other, (which was almost unavoidable, of course). In other and better words you are just the "AWESOME TWOSOME" and, he /she is definitely better than your not as awesome "EX"!!
Even your ex was nice; you stuck around with him/her for about a year after which things didn't really work out and you had to BREAK UP. You had a good time with him/her and you still have faint memories of the past. At that time, you went all around the world proclaiming how much you were in love with him/her, but now it all seems like some kind of infatuation. Well, "ALL THAT HAPPENS IS FOR THE GOOD" was how you convinced your tear glands; and now that you have finally met your "awesome partner", you have begun to believe in the authenticated idea.
Well, if the above mentioned story was mine; and if you had the same proportion of Grey matter in your head as much as I do, you would probably say that just like when I was involved in my previous relationship I felt I was in love after which it was reconsidered to be an infatuation; history could repeat itself and after I was "out" of my current "awesome " relationship I could rediscover it all to be a mere infatuation. If relationships continuously vary with our conveniences this way, one can never really convince himself of being in love, if he/she feels the possibility of new "love relationships" in the future.
Hope I'm not sounding cynical and disillusioned with love, but I think that if an emotion and a feeling for somebody, specially one that is so "deep-seated" as love; can be erased with such considerable ease it must have never existed. A separation between two people in love could be for the silliest of reasons, but if that erodes love from between them, it would be best to think that love never existed or rather never blossomed between the two. Wise men say; photographs can loose color, flowers can loose fragrances and even memories can fade but true love with your partner can only grow!
More often than expected, one falls in love with the IDEA OF BEING IN LOVE. Love as glorified by poets draws the common man's inherent curiosity to unimaginable extents. He/she starts to romanticize the beautiful flowers, the stars, the puppies and practically every thing picturesque; almost becoming an eternal romantic. Candle-lit dinners, ballets, his/her partner's best friend and a date for the most happening party in town, tempt him/her so much so that he/she can barely resist falling in love. The congenital insecurity human beings are blessed with, to a certain level suppresses with this feeling of love. Subconsciously or unconsciously each one of us in love, thus looks out for fulfillment of his/her expectations and dreams and this craving to be pampered by somebody, giving birth to a Shakespearean Orlando deep within his/her heart.
Now that you are familiar with love for love, ask yourself, whether you are actually in love with the person who you think you love, or just in love with the idea of being in love!
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